I took these photos a few days ago on Kitty’s insistence. ‘Baby BunBuns is getting SO big Mom’. She said. Please take photos of her when she is nursing so that we can remember that we could see her face as she suckled’. So, I did. I was waiting and ready with my camera when Kitty brought Baby BunBuns to her waiting mom on the couch. BunBuns reduced the nursings to only the morning feed a few weeks ago. We watched in delight, as we have every morning for the last two months, as Baby BunBuns greeted her mom with cuddles and then dived onto her back and scooted under her mom to nurse… feet straight up in the air.
‘Did you get her face?’ Kitty asked excitedly as I clicked away. ‘Yes’, I said.
Can you see her little face under her mom, ears pinned back and eyes tightly shut? Have you ever seen anything cuter?
She nursed for about 8 minutes and then jumped up, her belly big and eyes glazed with that happy milk haze. ‘See Mom’, Kitty said… ‘They are nearly the same size now!’
Would you know that these photos captured their last nursing session! The following morning, when Kitty brought Baby Buns to the couch, she frisked and jumped down to have a play around the house. No diving under her mom! Mommy BunBuns was aghast! We fetched Baby BunBuns and put her back on the couch. Mommy BunBuns nuzzled her, Baby BunBuns jumped down off the couch. We fetched her back! Mommy BunBuns then did the most amazing thing… she scooted on her nose, ears back, until she was just about on top of her baby and then flopped onto her back and lay there, presenting her tummy to her baby, imploring her baby to nurse. Baby BunBuns nuzzled her mom and then jumped down from the couch. And that was that. Baby BunBuns has never asked to nurse again. Mommy BunBuns has never presented herself to baby again. Baby weaned herself.
On that day I watched Mommy BunBuns implore her baby to nurse, I felt I knew what she was feeling. Teddy ended our nursing days at only 7 months old and I was devastated (and presented myself to him in much the same way Mommy BunBuns had presented herself to her baby). Teddy had been one of those babies who slept from 7pm to 5 am from just a few weeks old. He stopped nursing because we had traveled to South Africa, which is in the opposite time zone to America… night is day and day is night. As my baby had slept through the night from so early on, and nursed during the day, I only produced milk in the quantities he wanted at night in South Africa. He wanted it during the day! On the second day I gave him a bottle and that was the END of our nursing! He never nursed again.
So, we felt sad for Mommy BunBuns and Kitty spent an hour stroking her lovingly on the couch.
The world of mothering is full of so many joys and just a little sadness too.
Blessings and magic,