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Waiting For Something Increases It’s Value

It snowed yesterday and everything is once again covered in a blanket of powder-white snow. It’s magnificent. I seriously can’t get over how beautiful it is. I walk out over the squeaking snow and smile with joy, thinking to myself how lucky I am to be here in this very spot at this very time.

In fact, I’ve been complaining lately that it hasn’t snowed enough! Can you believe that? My Good Man and I have a joke that we should have moved to Alaska. To think that we were apprehensive of living in the snow and cold weather… it almost put us off moving to this beautiful part of the world. Now, it’s our favorite FAVORITE thing. We can’t imagine loving another season as much as we love the winter in New Hampshire.

I remembered something important yesterday, while waiting for the snow… that waiting for something makes it even more wonderful when it comes. You see, I’ve been LONGING for fresh snow, for days and days, wishing so hard for it to fall and, when it finally did, with huge snowflakes floating slowly onto the ground, it literally made me feel jittery with joy! Exuberant and exhilarated with the wonder of nature and the magic of life! I felt like a child on Christmas morning… literally… I had a distinct memory of what it feels like to have truly waited for something magical and have it actually arrive. Pure, happy, giddy joy!

I rediscovered that when we are made to wait for something, it’s value to us increases. I’ve been pondering on this today and reminding myself that herein lies an important aspect of parenting that I need to reclaim.

I want my children to feel excited with life. I want them to experience real joy with what they have. I want them to know how lucky they are. I want them to feel the magic and wonder of getting something they have really waited for or worked hard to get. Yet I seem to have fallen into our modern paradigm of giving them so much, too much… they want/we give. We rarely let them experience the challenges and then magic of waiting. They want lego, they get lego. They want chips, they get chips. They want new paints, they get new paints. When they get the lego, chips or paints so readily, we see that they don’t feel the gratitude we expect them to feel? In turn, we feel disappointed in their lack of thankfulness. We might even get angry with them. ‘Do you know how lucky you are to have so much?’ we might ask. They shrug in confusion.

What yesterday reminded me, was that we are largely to blame for their apathy. We don’t allow them to long for much. We don’t let them experience the challenges of working really hard for what they think they need. We don’t even think they truly know what they want as they get so much.

So, kids, I’m sorry-not-sorry, but things are going to change a little here. We are not going to mindlessly get or give anymore… we are going to wait and work for the things we want. It’s a good thing, I promise… we will all feel so much more joy and gratitude for what we have.

 

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Blessings and magic,

Donni

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In Gratutude (and Happiness)

I’ve been listening to Ted Talks while I work.

Wow!! There are some incredible people in this glorious world.

I have learned SO much!

Here’s something BIG… the more grateful you are, the happier you will be.

 

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You would think it was the other way around, wouldn’t you… that you become grateful because you are happy… but no, apparently it’s the grateful people who are the happiest.

Isn’t this good news?!

We have control over how grateful we feel, don’t you think? By taking stock of our blessings and acknowledging how lucky we are to have so many beautiful things in our lives, surely we couldn’t help but feel grateful; grateful for our families, grateful for our beautiful earth, grateful for the love we can feel and express … and, most importantly, grateful for each and every precious moment we are experiencing together which, in fact, is the greatest gift of all.

The more we live gratefully, the happier we feel!

Who knew it was so simple?

We just have to be grateful. And we just have to raise grateful children.

All I want for my children is for them to be happy people. I want the best for them, of course, but most of all, I want them to be happy. Surely they are living their best life if they are living a happy life. Happiness is all we really need… to be genuinely happy with what we have and who we are.

So, we have started a new family tradition in The Sunny House. Every evening at the dinner table, we each have a turn to tell each other one thing that happened in the day that we are grateful for.

It is so interesting how the children have taken to this daily ritual. At first, they struggled with it. They couldn’t think anything they were grateful for. Slowly they became better at it… they were grateful for their things, their toys and their belongings. My Good Man and I resisted the urge to encourage them to be grateful for more important things like the people in their lives and the experiences that make them feel good.

We are both so ‘grateful’ we held back as they have come to this place all on their own. Now, more than likely, they are grateful for a person or what a person did for them or something nice that happened to them. Isn’t that lovely!

The second part of the ritual is telling each other one thing that we did that day that made someone else feel grateful. This has been wonderful and has had amazing implications for the children and for My Good Man and me. We actually find ourselves going out of our way to be kind thinking, Yay, I”m making so-and-so feel grateful. It feels so good. And makes us grateful, which in turn, would you know, makes us fell happy.

We all love this coming together to express our gratitude and, more often than not, it sparks wonderful dinnertime conversations.

Let’s all take time to acknowledge and express gratitude throughout the day. You’ll be amazed at what an impact it will have.

 

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Blessings on the blossom
Blessings on the root
Blessings on the leaf
And blessings on the fruit

In deep gratitude, here is one of the Ted Talks that have inspired us : David Steindl-Rast : Want to be Happy? Be Grateful.

Blessings and magic,

Donni

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